Happy April! Spring has sprung and with it comes the excitement of expansion, growth and possibility. However, if we are not paying attention, that excitement can easily lead to anxiousness because the allure of the future can be a mighty one, continually calling us out of the Now. This is where the practice of patience can be so helpful. Dictionary.com lists the first definition of patience as: the quality of being patient as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like. The 2nd definition listed is: an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay.
The definitions above, negative in their connotation, are certainly the ones I have most associated with patience. It has always seemed to me that patience is something difficult or challenging to obtain. We want something…and most often, we want it now. We crave a future that may or may not arrive yet experience anxiousness in the moment about not being there yet. Ultimately, if we have anxiousness now and crave something different, we are more likely to experience anxiousness in the future and crave something different because it is what we are practicing now. Whatever we practice now, we get better at in the future.
Dreaming of a fantastic future is a good thing and self-concordant, concrete goals to create that future are even better. However, they are not Now. They are simply targets to face us in the right direction. It’s a big world out there with a lot of distractions and it’s easy to stray off course. Our goals simply serve as a compass and are therefore very necessary to keep us on track. However, if we let the future reign supreme, we will most likely feel restless and annoyed in the present. When we are waiting for something, we may find ourselves continually calling upon this abstract idea of patience with all of its negative connotations, often without success.
Then there is the 3rd definition for patience: quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence. Now, this is something I can get behind and because it feels more peaceful in my mind, the navigation towards whatever it is will feel much more peaceful in my life. It is very difficult to get motivated towards a negative goal. We are much more likely to arrive at a destination that we are excited about as well as enjoy ourselves more fully once we get there than we are to arrive and enjoy a place that is filled with negative emotions along the way which will inevitably play out in some shape or form once we arrive.
Change our mind, change our life. Words only have the meaning that we give them. If we can redefine a word in our mind, we are much more likely to believe it in our hearts. And once our heart gets involved, there usually is no stopping us.
My goal for this season of growth is to cultivate patience…in other words to move forward with quiet, steady perseverance, even tempered care and diligence. There is much to do in the world, and then there is what we can do right now. And right now, something we can do is deeply inhale what patience means to us and exhale, through our conscious actions, that meaning out and into our everyday lives.
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With infinite love and gratitude…